How To Tell Your 10 Yr old Santa Isn't Bringing You The Cell Phone You Asked For

As soon as I post this, I am off to the mall to finish my holiday shopping.  It will be a leaner Christmas for the Schafer's, but mostly because I bought myself a $1k emergency root canal last week. I can't blame the economy on that.  I did share my thoughts on how to handle the money crisis and the upcoming holiday with children in yesterday's Globe and Mail.  You can read it here if you'd like more information on the "how to have the money talk".  (Gee, and we thought talking about sex was difficult!)

Frankly, I am happy to do some consumer downsizing and spend more of my energies on the other traditions that surround this season.  Here is some of what our family does: 

• I have bought each of my children a goat to give to another family through Free The Children. This is an organization my daughter is involved with, and a goat is a really tangible thing that they were thrilled to "get" for these other children.  ( Ya, I already told them. Couldn't wait till the 25th).

• Last year I asked my daughter to give something to the families in Dafur as her gift to me. That meant she had to do some research and was really moved but what she learned.  It was a gift to us both really.  She was really proud to have sent her own money to their aid. 

• Every year my husband and I ask our children for something they have made themselves.They are 13yrs and 14yrs now, but I still keep this tradition going. Last year, I got a wonderful scrapbook that my daughter compiled called "the 100 things I love about you".  The year before I received a tin box with a glass front and inside the tin was a note that said " We blew 100 kisses each into this box for you" so I could have kisses anytime I needed one.   

Be creative yourself in your quest to have the best holiday ever with your family.  If you really want those presents under the tree, see if Christmas lasagna could become a new tradition!  I think I spend more at the grocery store than the mall anyways.

How ever you go about it, remember that all of our stresses are in fact "self-inflicted" misery.  I refuse to indulge myself that way. You always have the ability to control your attitude regardless of how dire the situation.  Enjoy your family. That is all that matters.   

Comments

[Louise]

Those are some amazing ideas! This year we've told our kids that it's better to give than to receive, so they have decided to shop with their very own money and get eachother and us a small gift. And they are excited about it! However, I would really like to get them into helping others, versus buying presents. We'll see how that goes for next year!