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The Parenting Show begins its 4th season on Rogers Television this Monday ( Sept 15th). Our topic is "Discipline Do's and Don'ts" and we welcome back our regular guest, Jacqueline Kovacs from Today's Parent Magazine. Give us a call with your discipline question! Here are the details:
Date: Monday Sept 15th
Time: Live at 2pm
Number: 1-877-222-5310
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Alyson Schafer is a psychotherapist and one of Canada's leading parenting experts. She's the author of the best-selling "Breaking the Good Mom Myth" (Wiley, 2006) and the new "Honey I Wrecked The Kids" (Wiley, 2009). Her popular TV call-in show The Parenting Show is now in its fourth season.
The media relies on Alyson's comments and opinions. You can find her interviewed and quoted extensively in such publications as Cosmopolitan, Readers' Digest, Canadian Living, Today's Parents, and Canadian Families and on TV shows like CBC's The National, TVO's Agenda, and Montel Williams.
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Can't wait!
Posted by: Thea from Mississauga | September 12, 2008 at 11:02 PM
Do you accept email questions for the show? It's about logical consequences and how to handle consequence overload. My daughter just turned three. As an example of my question, she is outside picking the heads off our neighbour's flowers. The consequence, firm and friendly, is to come inside until she is ready to try again to not pick the flowers. We offer the option to walk or be carried in. She choses walk, but then proceeds to bite my hand. We carry her in as she screams and we say, calmly, "I'm sorry you're not happy with your choice." Inside, she starts to throw her toys at the wall, which I calmly put out of reach. She then starts spitting on the carpet (and I think her head is starting to spin slowly at this point), which I would normally have her clean up herself, but things are escalating badly. How do I keep focus on the original message, "Don't pick the flowers," without being inconsistent about how these subsequent issues are handled?
Posted by: Sharon | September 15, 2008 at 11:44 AM
I would love to hear your response to the above question, Alyson!
Posted by: Mya | September 20, 2008 at 12:21 AM
Nothing upsets a child so much as trying to upset their parents and their parent refuses to get upset, and instead stays calm! wow. She is trying to defeat you every step of the way, and you win by being so good at logical consequences.
One problem.... Logical consequences are not good tools for power struggles. :(
I try to encourage parents to move to problem solving with the child instead. Ask the child "how can we share the yard without hurting the flowers?" is there some other flower she could deadhead? does she want a gardening task? etc... "
Does that make sense? ( this is covered in my upcoming book! so important to know about)
Alyson
Posted by: Alyson Schafer | September 29, 2008 at 06:10 PM